Sailing Dating Tips

Sailing Dating Tips for Lovesail Members

Dating a sailing enthusiast can be both exciting, fun and even life-changing.  Here are a few sailing dating tips for Lovesail members new to dating or just a bit rusty:

1. ALWAYS keep your personal details to yourself.  We do not advise handing over your personal address, email address, facebook details, place of work or mobile number unless you are very sure about the person or have met them first. Be very wary of someone who sends you their contact details on the very first contact.  You can talk to them via the secure messaging facility on the site for as long as you like and until you are ready to meet.  Do not feel pressured to hand over your details.
2. ALWAYS let a friend know where you are going and who you are meeting when going on a first or subsequent date.  They can then check with you as to your whereabouts if needs be.
3. TAKE a mobile phone with you on the date and make sure it’s fully charged.
4. ALWAYS meet somewhere public and busy on a first date. Cafes, pubs, museums and galleries are all good examples of places to meet.  We would not advocate inviting someone you haven’t met to your own home or boat.
5. KEEP your drink with you at all times and try not to become too intoxicated during the date.
6. If you are invited to go sailing meet at least once, for a coffee perhaps, in a mutually convenient venue. Ideally, try to meet several more times before committing to a sailing trip. If you are going out sailing try to take a friend or group of friends with you.  There should be space and extra crew should be welcome.
7. ASK your date if they have friends on the site that can vouch for them or have been sailing with them before.
8. ALWAYS arrange your own transport to the date, especially if you are travelling abroad to meet someone new. Have enough funds and a contingency plan to get back under your own steam in case things do not turn out as expected.
9. PLEASE REMEMBER members on Lovesail are sailing enthusiasts. If they invite you sailing then expect to help with crewing. It doesn’t matter if you are novice just make this clear before you meet and find out what is expected of you. Sailing is not an excuse for a cheap/free holiday, you will be expected to pull your weight and also contribute to costs. Make sure you discuss this with your date before meeting.
10. LEAVE if you begin to feel uncomfortable.  Do not feel embarrassed or guilty about leaving, your safety is paramount.  It’s ok to make an excuse and leave whenever you want.
11. UNDER NO circumstances should you ever send money to someone you’ve met on a dating site or social network.
12. Report any members to Admin if you feel they are not genuine or have acted in a way that you feel is inappropriate. We can and will delete them!

What is a Scammer?

Whilst Scammers are extremely rare, on the Lovesail site we manually check profiles to filter them out, it is worth mentioning, after all, forewarned is forearmed.  Scammers are men or women pretending to be someone they are not.  They will seemingly fall head over heels in love with you, or they have some terrible story of woe and they prey on your sympathy in order to persuade you to send them some money.

Dealing with Scammers

Be very wary of people who send you their contact details on their first contact with you or add the details to their profile. Also, be very wary of giving them your contact details. If they are genuine then they won’t mind talking through the site’s private message facility. The message facility works exceptionally well and should be trusted.  If a member tells you anything to the contrary then direct them to me.  You could also ask them a few sailing questions.  If they are not genuine then they will have trouble holding a conversation about boats or sailing.

Trust Your Gut

Lastly for the sailing dating tips, when you meet someone face-to-face, your instincts will tell you if something’s doesn’t seem quite right. This is true of online contact too. They might not tell you much about themselves but ask you loads of questions, or maybe they declared undying love to you even before you’ve met.  If it feels strange in any way, chances are something’s not what it seems. Trust your instincts and tread carefully until you have got to know them a bit better.   If you’re not sure, share your thoughts with a trusted friend to get some advice from us.

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